It’s a question that sadly plagues a lot of people: Is my partner cheating? If you’re suspicious and wondering whether you’re a victim of infidelity, we might have the answers you seek, thanks to a private investigator who revealed four dead giveaways that your partner is cheating on you.
Aaron Bond of Bond Rees Private Investigations has experience when it comes to cheaters, and he has identified the most common behavioral traits that typically indicate that someone is being unfaithful to their partner. With 26% of people in relationships having been forced to deal with a partner’s infidelity, according to research from 2020, it’s no surprise that people want to know the warning signs.
According to Bond, there are subtle but serious signs of trouble to keep an eye out for. In fact, philanderers typically engage in four behaviors, in particular, that the experienced private investigator revealed in his list of cheating red flags, which can help victims of infidelity catch their significant other in the act of unfaithfulness, the NY Post reported.
Phone Behavior
The first red flag that someone may be cheating involves a person’s phone behavior—more specifically, a change from their normal patterns is a common giveaway. For example, they may start taking their phone everywhere with them or hiding their phone. A sudden change of passwords is also a sign of trouble, according to Aaron Bond.
“If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful,” Aaron Bond explained. “You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
In contrast, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones when you are in a close, committed relationship, according to The Sun. As the old saying goes, “Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.”
They Have Less To Say About Their Day
If your partner starts telling you less about their day, that could be another indication that there could be a huge problem, according to Bond. If they have begun to avoid you, that’s even worse, as it may indicate that they have something they feel guilty about or they may be sharing less about their day-to-day life with you because it just makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you anymore or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag,” Bond said. “Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out.”
Sharing less, spending less time together, and changes in a person’s typical daily behavior are all common traits of adulterous people. So, if your partner is suddenly inclined to avoid you rather than spend time together, it could be an indication that they are being unfaithful.
Changes In Libido
Although a person’s libido can change for a wide range of reasons, a change in your partner’s sex drive could be an indication of infidelity, Aaron Bond warns. While most would expect a diminished libido to be a red flag, Bond cautions that a heightened sex drive could be a red flag as well.
“Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating,” Bond claimed.
While interest in intimacy could be a warning sign, other changes in libido and bedroom behavior could indicate a problem, too. For example, a cheating partner may try to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before, Bond warned.
Negativity Towards You
The private investigator’s fourth warning sign that your partner could be cheating involves sudden spurts of negativity towards their significant other. According to Bond, this occurs because the tension and stress of carrying on with their infidelity results in cheaters lashing out at their partners. This could also be the cheater trying to absolve their guilt, convincing themselves that their partner deserves what they have done.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside, they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere,” Bond said. “Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away, or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal. If you experience this your partner could be cheating.”
While each of these warning signs could potentially be the result of other issues besides infidelity, most would agree that they do indicate some type of problem within the relationship that should be addressed. After all, a happy, healthy relationship doesn’t typically result in secrecy, avoidance, disinterest, unusual sexual demands, or negativity. So, if you do see any of these red flags rearing their ugly head, it’s likely time to dig deeper.
