In the predominately conservative state of Texas, a gay couple was out to eat as a family with their two young children when they received a note from a stranger. Apparently, he took notice of something, and he wanted to make sure they not only knew that he saw it but also that he didn’t think it was “okay.”
Norma’s Cafe in Farmers Branch, Texas, is your quintessential small-town diner, but when a lesbian couple chose it as a place to eat, fellow patrons would be forced to look on in horror as the women were served by an outspoken waitress who strongly disagreed with their lifestyle. And, this server was dishing up more than just the daily specials.
Fellow patrons took notice as the waitress loudly made her disdain with the gay couple and their choice to raise children together known to everyone in the eatery, even going as far as to try to get fellow diners to gang up on them. However, the reaction wasn’t what some would expect for the predominately Christian conservative state.
One young man, in particular, had a huge problem with what he was seeing, but it wasn’t with the two women and their kids but rather the loudmouthed waitress and her treatment of them. Troubled and not knowing what to do when the server wouldn’t stop, the distraught patron got up and appeared to leave, but he’d be back.
After preaching a brief message to the judgmental waitress, with the sentiment being one of loving the sinner since we’re all equally human and fall short of perfection, he then slipped a note onto the table that he had penned to the homosexual couple. Much to their surprise, his message left them in tears.
“Hello friends,” he began in the kind, handwritten note. “I know it doesn’t mean much, but I love you all. You have a beautiful family, and I pray that one person’s judgmental intolerance does not in any way put a damper on your hearts or minds,” the letter continued.
“In the words of MLK Jr, ‘In the end, we remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends,” he concluded before signing the note with just his first name, “Donovan.”
Luckily for us, we get to see this all unfold since this was part of hidden camera footage for a reality television show called, “What Would You Do?” Although the unconventional family and the waitress are all actors, the other diners are real patrons and unknowing participants in the social experiment. Therefore, their reactions are authentic and prove that even those who live in the most conservative states are not all bigots and homophobes, as many Christian conservatives are often labeled.
As SF Globe points out, “Texas is a predominantly conservative state, so it’s no mystery why this team is running a social experiment [at] a local diner there.” As they run the experiment twice — once with a lesbian couple and then with two gay men — watch how different people respond to the situation, especially paying attention to the best part which is when we see the touching moment the Texas man took a stand, showing the homosexual couple what true tolerance and acceptance looks like.
Each one of us has sinned, and unfortunately, we will sin again. Therefore, nobody is in a place to cast a condemning stone of judgment at another. At the end of the day, all that matters is how we treat people and whether we build others up or tear them down — and this doesn’t mean forgoing one’s convictions.
A kind word does not condone the actions of others, but it has the power to leave a positive impression on them, which may make all the difference in their later decisions. As the old saying goes, “You attract more flies with honey than vinegar,” and as Christians, our ultimate goal should be to attract others to follow Christ by showing the unconditional love that He showed us.
While Christians are often chastised as bigots and homophobes, the video brought another astonishing finding to light. The predominantly conservative Texans were twice as likely to voice support of the mistreated family than those in the state of New York. While approximately half the bystanders stood up to the unkind waitress in Texas, less than a dozen out of 100 patrons did the same in New York.
We are thankful for and applaud these Texans who called out cruel treatment when they saw it and for their outstanding display of compassion, successfully dismissing the unfair stereotype often applied to those in conservatives states. God bless Texas! Don’t forget to share this fine example of what true Christian caring and love look like — we could all use a reminder now and then.